This has been a year like no other.
Most of us want to put 2020 behind us as soon as possible, but for that very reason, it’s still worth taking some time to reflect on it. I do this every year, and always find it useful. But this time, my process was slightly different. So here’s how to review 2020.
Go through your calendar for the year.
It probably won’t be as full as previous years! Nonetheless, make a note of everything you’ve achieved, everything you’re proud of, everything you’ve learned.
Be kind.
Acknowledge the small victories, and let go of what could have been, without a global pandemic.
We’ve all found resilience we didn’t know we had. Getting through it is an achievement in itself. Shopping for that elderly neighbour, or checking in on friend who were isolated is an achievement. And anyone home-schooling children while also trying to work from home deserves a medal!
As for all the health workers, the teachers, the key workers who kept the deliveries coming, shops stocked and open, public transport working: we might have stopped clapping, but we still owe you heart-felt thanks.
It’s also a year when the tragic murder of George Floyd and the Black Lives Matter movement led to welcome reflection, education and change for many of us.
We had more time to think, to discover what lights us up, and to get back in touch with what’s important to us. Most of us have learned to appreciate those everyday pleasures that we tended to take for granted – until they were no longer available to us.
Some questions to consider:
- What were the three biggest hurdles you faced this year?
- And how did you find your way through them?
- What qualities did you show with these challenges, that you are proud of?
- How have you grown and what have you learned?
- What are your happiest memories this year?
- What did you miss most in lockdown?
- And what did you enjoy?
- What will you keep, as life returns to something like normal?
- Have your priorities shifted? What’s important to you now?
- What could you have done better?
- What’s holding you back most?
- What are you tolerating?
- What skills have you gained, or improved?
- Have you made new friendships, valuable new contacts, closer community ties?
- How have you contributed?
- What do you want more of in 2021?
- And what do you want less of?
Now do an audit.
The Pareto principle is the notion that around 20% of our efforts tend to yield something like 80% of our results.
So what were your high-impact activities of 2020? What got the best results for you? And what will you do more of, next year?
Think about all areas of your life:
- Work
- Money
- Relationship
- Fun
- Friends and family
- Creativity
- Health & fitness
- Happiness
- Personal growth
Also look at where the remaining 80% of your time, energy and effort are being expended, without delivering the best results.
What could you get rid of entirely, or cut back on? What sucks your time, energy and focus without giving great returns?
Again, a few examples:
- Is there one client/customer who takes up a lot of your time with unreasonable demands/complaints and questions? Perhaps you need to part company with that client, and make space for a better one.
- Do you have a friend who is relentlessly negative, or only calls you when they’re down? Reduce the time you spend with people who sap your energy – and seek out those who inspire you instead.
- Is there a task you consistently put off, avoid, or hate doing? Think of ways to get rid of it if it’s not important, or delegate if it is. If it’s something you absolutely have to do, is there a way of simplifying the task or doing it less often? Or an app or a piece of kit that would make it easier or more enjoyable? Can you put a system in place to make it less of an effort?
One of my minor victories this year, for instance, was getting all my accounts done in April, when we were in lockdown with little to do. And then creating a system to update my figures twice a month – so that next year’s accounts will be ready in April, too. No more all-nighters the following January, and avoiding my accountant’s emails!
Another activity I’ll keep is the daily walks that helped keep me sane in 2020. They definitely offered a high return for the time invested, increasing my fitness, and lowering my stress levels. I’ve explored my local area like never before, had lots of useful insights and ideas on walks, and our longer Sunday outings have become a great time to check in with my husband, to make plans and discuss minor niggles.
How to refocus for 2021
In next week’s post, I’ll talk about how to plan your year with kindness. No more big new year’s resolutions that you’ll break before the end of January. Instead, it’s all about making small changes, month by month, that add up to much bigger shifts, over time.
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